A NEW DEFINITION OF MARRIAGE: TAKING THE JOURNEY OF SELF HEALING TOGETHER
How often do we set aside time to consider and reflect on our own Self Healing?
Our lives are often filled with tasks and chores that occupy the mind and ignore the heart. We may even be influenced by the voices or words of others who suggest we should do this or that, or should see, or live, be like so and so.
On the other hand perhaps we can truly deeply ask ourselves what it is we desire and can call upon support to enrich our lives. Sometimes when life is challenging and I have been ignoring my heart I can picture my soul, myself, lying within me, dormant, my most trusted ally, my dearest friend, waiting for me to acknowledge and ask quietly the questions that need to be asked. My soul will then guide me and deliver the answers that fit most perfectly for my journey. My heart will open, shine, feel and be light.
My gateway to finding this place of Self Healing comes simply from connecting with nature and being open to the great mystery that is this life. By either lying or sitting on the Earth, or simply imagining I am on the Earth and surrendering, letting go, and merging with the Earth, Sky, Stars and all things, all realms. I can then be open and ready to receive Self Healing. Seeing my skin as the boundary of my physical body only, and simply that. My soul has no boundaries. It can travel and play. It can learn, be shown things, perhaps through dreams or in stillness and meditation. I can receive healing, insight and purpose enabling me to move forward on my path.
So for me it’s nature, which encompasses all things, that supports me in my Self Healing practices.
Michael Miller
And now for her say…
Although titled His and Hers Self Healing, this is not an intention to perpetuate the separation of men and women, or to give them different bathroom sinks to do their thing. In fact it is quite the opposite. When we can see ourselves as individuals, black, white, male, female, heterosexual, homosexual etc. and still stay united while accepting the differences, there is healing.
Our society has a long history of separation issues which play out as unwanted and unacceptable behaviour. And this is all ok when we take responsibility for ourselves, our emotions and our acts of forgiveness. I am the first to admit that there has been many moments when I wished I had expressed myself differently or behaved differently. Alongside this has been an opportunity for me to ask, “what would love do now?” and reconcile the opposition and conflict. To love, accept and forgive myself has not always been so easy, which is has inspired my love and dedication to studying neurology and healing modalities such as Kinesiology, KaHuna massage and conscious dance movement practices.
For all intents and purposes, I want to be that person who is kind and loving towards herself and others and I have certainly been given many opportunities to practice it. I occasionally need to remind myself of this when I am triggered by someone’s behaviour or my own foibles. As tempting as it is to take it personally and react, I know in my heart and soul that there is a greater picture and an opportunity for healing gifted in this challenge. Ideally it plays out like this…Emotions arise, and then so does my self awareness, recognising my feelings and how I might normally act on this. Then loving wisdom is invited in to guide me to respond in a way that I feel is appropriate. It sounds very simple, and neurologically, this is the exact process that occurs when we are present with exactly what is, rather than being stuck in past hurts or reactions.
As you can imagine this is easier said than done. When there is a considerable amount of charge or emotional energy or pain on an issue, some of our brain pathways are shut down, disabling us to modulate our emotions and behaviours in the way that we normally would. Primal survival mechanisms can be very strongly wired into the way we do certain things which cause us to revert to attacking, submissive, freeze or flight behaviours. When we are in this mode we can have very limited access to our conscious rational brain which is able to put things into perspective and problem solve a resolution. I know that when I am stuck in any of these behaviours, self healing is easier and more effective with some support, and that is when I will call my Kinesiologist for a session to help me through the blind spot or out of the hole.
Personally my journey in self healing has taken a focus on listening deeply to the callings of the body, heart and soul in order to give myself exactly what I need. Unmet needs can manifest in all kinds of subversive behaviours which are in no way empowering to anyone. Through conscious dance movement practices and creative expression, I have been able to drop out of states of mental overdrive or disconnection and be able to come home to my body and rest in awareness. When I connect with the tension or tiredness in my body I am able to give it a voice and hear what I truly need. We all have our own unique ways of coming to this place. There are so many ways of using life’s opportunity to self heal and receive and express the fullness of our being. May you find the way that brings you the most joy and rewards.
Simone Miller